How to Seduce a Man: 10 Proven Ways To Make Him Want You Bad
When you hear the word “seduction,” what comes to mind?
I’m willing to bet it was sex. Am I right?
The interesting thing is that seduction is actually the opposite of sex.
Kitty Cavalier of the School of Cheek and Charm was quoted in a Psychology Today article about seduction:
“It’s interesting that we associate seduction with sex, when in fact, true seduction is the opposite of sex. Sex is when desire is met. Seduction is not about the culmination or gratification of desire, it is about the thrill of the desire itself. It is the game that is played as the desire comes closer, and closer, and closer, and being able to maintain that tension of wanting for a long, long time.”
So…yea. Seduction is about making him want you, not necessarily letting him, have you.
You can seduce a man you’ve never kissed…
And you can seduce a man you’ve been with for years.
Either way, these tips for how to seduce a man will come in handy.
Seduction Tip 1: Let Your Eyes Do the Work
Your eyes tell him everything about how you feel. They are, in fact, your biggest weapon when it comes to winning the seduction war.
Here’s an interesting study: a psychologist brought together dozens of men and women who’d never met before and asked them to look into each other’s eyes for two minutes without saying a word.
What do you imagine happened? Afterward, the majority of participants felt extremely attracted to their test partner. One of the couples even got married a year later! This just goes to show the power of eye contact.
When you’re talking to a man you’re attracted to, you might get nervous and flit your eyes around, but you’re better off looking him directly in the eyes (while smiling!) while you talk or listen. Mix up your expression based on what he’s saying. You can raise an eyebrow to indicate that you don’t believe him (in a playful way), or even wink at him. There are so many ways you can express yourself with your eyes, so experiment and see what gets a reaction.
You can also make prolonged eye contact with him across a crowded room until he takes notice, then look away. You’ve hooked him, but then it seems like there’s something more interesting that has taken your attention. This will pique his interest since he wants your attention back on him, and he’ll walk over.
Seduction Tip 2: Practice Your Dozens of Smiles
Did you realize there are different types of smiles? Some you won’t want to use, like the fake smile, but you can still mix it up.
Try a sly smile that says I know something you don’t know, combined with a quiet chuckle, to leave him wondering about what you’re thinking.
Smile genuinely when he approaches or says something interesting.
Give him a smirk if he uses a cheesy pickup line. You don’t want to send him away with his tail between his legs, but you do want him to know you’re onto him.
Make up your own smiles! Like eye expressions, there are tons of ways to leverage this if you’re learning how to seduce a man.
There’s a reason I’m always encouraging you to be more confident: men love it. If you seem like you’re not desperate, that you could take or leave talking to a guy, his desire to chase you kicks in.
A confident woman knows she’s attractive, funny, and smart. She doesn’t need a man to tell her that. In fact, she doesn’t need a man at all. And nothing makes a man want a woman more than when she shows that she doesn’t need him but wants him. So own that.
If he compliments you, smile and look in his eyes and say thank you. Or better yet, I know!
Hold your shoulders back. Shoulders forward says you’re insecure. The opposite says you own the room.
Wear clothes that flatter you. You don’t need to wear super short skirts or plunging necklines to be sexy, but do wear clothes that say I know I look fab.
Seduction Tip 7: Show Off Your Intellectual Side
If you’re thinking you need to play down your smarts to learn how to seduce a man, you’re wrong. Most men, especially sapiosexuals — also known as nymphobrainiacs — get turned on by intelligence. If you know you’re smarter than a rocket scientist, then let it shine!
Note: there’s a fine line between showing off your intellectual side and just being a know-it-all. If you’re trying to seduce a guy, you can talk about books you’ve read and things you’re interested in, but don’t start correcting him if he says something wrong.
Him: …you know, since the sun revolves around the Earth…
Nothing will kill a man’s libido faster than being corrected. So just leave it.
This is particularly useful if you meet a guy through a dating app since you often have some great meat about what he’s into. If you see a book or topic he’s interested in on his dating profile, bring it up. The more obscure, the better. He’ll be blown away that you even know about it! (Just make sure you actually do).
Seduction Tip 8: Be a Little Hot and Cold
I know a lot of women who think how to seduce a man is to throw themselves at him. How will he know you want him if you’re not draped all over him?
In fact, the opposite is true.
That woman isn’t a challenge. The woman he will chase is one that pours all her attention on him…then excuses herself to get a drink or say hi to a friend. The woman who, as soon as he shows interest, backs off a bit.
If you realize you’ve been doing a lot of touching or eye-batting, pull back and let him step up his game to show you that he’s interested.
Seduction Tip 9: Let the Dance Floor Do the Seducing
Dancing is a wonderful way to show your attraction without requiring any witty conversation. And no, there’s no twerking involved!
If you’ve been making eyes at a guy across the room and you think he’s interested but he hasn’t yet made a move, sashay over to him, grab his hand, then pull him out on the dance floor. You can get close, but there’s no grinding necessary. Just having you within such close proximity will work its magic. Let your hips loosen, smile to show you’re having a good time, and throw your hands over his shoulders.
If you haven’t yet danced with him, get out there by yourself and dance while watching him. That makes it pretty clear that you wish he was there with you on the dance floor!
Seduction Tip 10: Have Some Deliberate “Accidents”
If you’re sitting at a table next to this guy, let your leg brush his several times. He’ll wonder, was that an accident?
Drop something and pick it up so that you show off your body. Or drop it so that your hands collide as he also reaches to pick it up.
He will think these little gestures are accidents, but he’ll still be seduced and want you more.
Conclusion: How to Seduce a Man? Be Authentic
While some of these tips on how to seduce a man require you to get a little out of your comfort zone, in general, you should feel comfortable doing them (if not, skip that one). I 100% believe that you have to be yourself in order to seduce a man. Otherwise, you come off as inauthentic, and he’ll see right through you.
If you’re sexy and confident, you’ll prove yourself to be genuine. He’ll want you, mind, body, and soul if he sees that you know who you are and what you want (including him!).
You may need to practice these tips on how to seduce a man so that you perform them flawlessly and confidently. Consider every date you go on to be the opportunity to practice. Take mental notes on what got best results (hair flip combined with a light touch on the wrist? Check!) so that you know to use it next time.
And while seduction isn’t about sex, it’s a great lead-up to it if you want to have sex with a guy you’re seeing. Remember that anticipation is half the fun, so let that sexual tension really build up so that when you do finally decide to get into bed with this man, it blows his mind entirely. Take your time, though. While your seduction efforts may make him all the more eager to express your physical relationship together, you also need to be on the same page for it to happen. When it’s right, it’ll happen.
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